tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1725945605598405164.post8868195997755324632..comments2012-06-29T04:06:07.017-04:00Comments on Adventure Misconceived: Baby, Decide My FutureTracy Beehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10193585678452025718noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1725945605598405164.post-88619565256963572732010-12-08T22:23:28.320-05:002010-12-08T22:23:28.320-05:00What a great post! Kids - your greatest joy and y...What a great post! Kids - your greatest joy and your greatest disappointment. Motherhood changed me in ways that nothing else could have done. However, I do believe the surveys that point to a greater happiness for those without. I think one can be happy either way but they are very very very different lives. Profoundly so.<br /><br /> I had Jack when I was 38, having married at 36. You're right about the training part. The stronger you are going into it, the better off you will be.<br /><br />You didn't ask, but if you have one, have another soon after. It's my greatest regret that I didn't. Not because I want another kid - but because it might have been better for my son to have a sibling and easier for us that they have each other. Who knows?BloomingtonGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05619533724067199394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1725945605598405164.post-40563480167032560262010-12-01T16:10:16.684-05:002010-12-01T16:10:16.684-05:00The linked article "All Joy and No Fun" ...The linked article "All Joy and No Fun" was fascinating. Best line re children: “They’re a huge source of joy, but they turn every other source of joy to shit.”<br /><br />Growing up I remember listening to a Bill Cosby album (it must have made an impression on me) about his experiences having children and him remarking about how he ceased to be able to have any intelligent conversations whatsoever post-children. My own experiences with my sister confirm this. No conversation can go more than five minutes without being interrupted by some disruptive child. When we are able to talk, it is almost always about the children.<br /><br />But the most interesting part of the article you linked was this question of whether we should value moment-to-moment happiness more than retrospective evaluations of our lives. The idea being that kids make the daily moments of our lives utterly miserable but its all worth it because in the end (literally) when you reflect upon it all, you feel like your life had meaning. I think this question can be applied to many different contexts, not just kids, and I don't think the answer is obvious.Robert Downeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12218358348653409529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1725945605598405164.post-49944105429575669542010-11-30T09:31:31.716-05:002010-11-30T09:31:31.716-05:00Having kids is a serious decision, one I think our...Having kids is a serious decision, one I think our generation does belabor, because it really ends up being a crap shoot. John likens having kids to writing his dissertation so maybe you should write the novel. Sometimes I wonder what if only one since we have 3? Or imagine if we'd just opted out, but it does seem unimaginable, which leads me to believe I made a good choice. You just jump in and the water IS cold and you don't always warm up quickly. Cliches are there for a reason. It's also okay to not swim.mamajenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15958604173857665457noreply@blogger.com